News and Changes!

Hello! I am so sorry that I haven’t been as consistent as I should. I am in the middle of an intense online course of how to build a business and it is taking up every minute, Having typed that, It does not mean that I have forgotten about you. It only means that I need to schedule my blog posts for Tuesday or Wednesday. I also wanted to let you know that I will be changing this blog and copying these blog posts to my website; http://thirdolivetree.com/  under the Well of Hope blog.

I hope to hear from more of you soon and as always, be safe and kind with yourself.

 

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Our first online RSVP!

I wanted to create a family friendly event where moms could eat, relax, and chat about anything while the kids played and (maybe even tried some new foods!)

I am so excited to offer a simple way for y’all to RSVP for the Real Nommy Food Playgroup for our March Playdate!

I am planning on having an evening playdate in March, for those busy moms who work or just can’t bring their kids to the playdate. These playdates are for moms (and the kids coming is a bonus)!

The rest of the year, once a month, we have a local relaxed and fun lunch with the kids, usually at a home, park or recently, at a Natural Food Cafe called Potager. We talk about food, health issues and anything else that pertains to our health or happiness (G-rated). We do a small exercise in self-awareness and reap the benefits of a community of moms who love to eat, cook and take care of their families.

I home school my 5 kids, so they are with me most of the time and I love having them around. I also know how hard it is to take care of yourself when you are taking care of kids; even eating well is a challenge.

I have a theory that if momma is well-fed then the rest of the family will be happier!

 

When you donate to the Playgroup, you are RSVP’ing for a meal in March and I will contact you within 24 hours with the location, date/time and menu for the Playdate. Please remember that for every $5 is the cost of a child and $10 is the cost of an adult.

If you do not have a Paypal account, don’t fret, there is a way to pay online, as long as you have a debit/credit card.

PLEASE remember that you are welcome to the Playgroup even if you CANNOT afford the Meal. We will ask that you (and your kids) eat before or after the Playdate as we use the donations to pay for ingredients and cooking of the meal and therefore cannot afford to pay for everyone’s meal. You will still need to RSVP to attend for free. Please See below.

I always try to have something available for free, (salad, drink) for moms who cannot afford the meal and I hope that you will come out and enjoy our community regardless of your ability to pay. Please Contact me at hopewellelisa@yahoo.com for your free RSVP.

Pay here for the playgroup meal and RSVP;

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Bio:

I wanted to tell you a little bit about me;
I had my first child at 23 with my amazing husband.
I got pregnant with our 2nd child about 15 months later.
It was after my 2nd child that I developed PPD, even though I didn’t realize what was going on in my body.

We sold our home, moved into my parents house and my husband started school again, after I had just quit school, because my healing had become much more difficult and complicated. It was around Christmas when I started to fully grasp how sick I felt. It was all about the alternation between despair, exhaustion and numbness that plagued my days.

I found out after January that I was pregnant with our third child. Needless to say, I wanted to die because I thought God was punishing me for not living blissfully or gratefully with my 2 beautiful babies.

I was surrounded by family and I had never felt so alone. I was miserable and I couldn’t pretend that I was okay, much less happy.
When my husband understood that we were headed down this road, we quickly moved out into a bigger apartment and I isolated myself as much as I could.
I wanted to connect with my old friends or even make new ones but It was so difficult because all my thoughts revolved around how terrible I felt.
I tried to reach out to the people in my life and I think they were completely terrified of my mindset because I had no one to talk to about how I felt and it was overwhelming for most people.

Relief started to come in the form of acknowledgement and resources, even unhelpful ones, that were sent to me by a loving and gracious God; I was happily shocked to see my baby in a sonogram after cursing the physical act of pregnancy while I felt so beat down and worthless because I was so tired.
I was able to talk to my husband about my thoughts and feelings.
I had a friend that would come and visit me.
I also tried eating more whole food and less junk food.
I got more creative with my resources.

 
I had to get better when my 3rd child was diagnosed with ‘Failure to Thrive” and we were shuttled off to many experts who did not know how to help him.

During that crisis, I lost all my friends, and even our family would not acknowledge my efforts for my son.
But, by then, I had resolved to care for my family, no matter what anyone else thought.
My husband also proved to be my greatest source of comfort and support, as he also felt alone in his quest to care for his family and we felt that we only, had each other’s best interests at heart.

A year after our 3rd child, I went from sleeping non-stop, to being unable to sleep.
I still struggle with this issue today. Some days it gets the best of me, some days I am super productive-out of control, crazy mean, can’t sleep, mom.

I always need a few days of recovery after those crazy days.

After my 4th successful pregnancy and birth, I spiraled top to bottom in anxiety, but it seemed less intense than the previous sleep-filled 2 years that I had slogged through.

By the time I felt ready for a 5th child, my husband was dealing with some intense pressure to perform, in every aspect. Career-wise, socially, and emotionally but he was very stressed. It is a miracle to me that we were able to get pregnant at all.
Our 5th child was born in March and the very next day, he was whisked away to a local NICU because of an unforeseen heart defect. We were able to bring him home safely and full of relative health, after 6 days, and the support of many services within our community and I am grateful every day when I see his little face.

I wanted to close with the only idea that is real to me. I will do what God asks of me and I will do it in a way that allows me to express myself in a healthy manner. This means to me, that I need to listen to my body and give it what it needs, regardless of what the ‘experts’ say. I am in control of my health, not anyone else.

I found out, almost a year after my 5th child, that my body does not like; Chocolate, Soy, Sugar, Nuts, pasturized dairy and gluten. This matters to me because I have had chronic stomach problems since my teens and substituting these above foods, with other helpful foods has made a life difference for me.

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Happy New Year!

I have been doing so much research and pondering how to best help you and I have come to a conclusion:

I am already living my dream! I am already on the path to help you and your family.

I am realizing how much I enjoy meeting new people who are open to healing and love and truth. I also realize how much I enjoy cooking and feeding others foods that help their bodies function better. I am about to embark on several months long journey to learn how to read and interpret our bodies plea for health. I am so excited for what this year will bring and the possibilities!

I also realized, with a bit of trepidation, that most people think of PPD as a 4 letter word. Bad, scary and sad. BUT, I don’t feel that way.

I am surprised that PPD is spoken of, if at all, with hushed, somber and painful tones.
I am not going to address PPD and recovery with that attitude.
Would you like to talk to someone who used that tone or had an attitude of shame?

I am not ashamed of going through PPD and I am not ashamed of trying to openly help heal other families. I am not ashamed that you are in need of help and I am not ashamed of the fact that we all need help (usually everyday!)
I am and will embrace joyfully this mission of hope and healing.
I will help others as I learn and I will do it for free when I can.

Forward and Onward!

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Hello!

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I just wanted to let you know that not only will I be giving this blog a upgraded look soon, I want to make all my online resources match. I am finding more resources everyday for you and your family and I know that this campaign will give you and your family hope for the future.

I also wanted to let you know how much need there is for this campaign. There are so many families struggling, and we all need to know we are not alone, that we are loved and that it will get better.

All of the people that I have contacted for PPD support have been so helpful and encouraging. So many people have struggled with this and all that I have spoken to; have healed and want to share in helping with this campaign.

Please know that (regardless of your religious beliefs) that you are loved by a Divine Creator, the Universe and Humanity. No one wants you to suffer, feel awful or be unhappy with the beautiful life you have been given.

I am the first one to admit that my negative thought patterns got the best of me for years, and even though I could see the beauty of my life, I couldn’t feel it and that was what tormented me each day. Being so numb or so desperately sorrowful was beyond my capacity to understand, much less change. But eventually I couldn’t wait any longer to feel differently. I made choices that led me to changing my thoughts, which changed my actions, which in turn, changed my feelings and eventually, life.

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It is officially Christmas Eve!

My family is from Costa Rica. We like to eat, dance and Talk. Even on Christmas.
But we never forget what Christmas is about; BABY Jesus. (Yes, that’s what we call Him.)

But despite the possibly sacriligous name, we still have a tradition that we commit to every year.
Baby Jesus gifts. We find a small box and write down, on small slips of paper, our 1 sacrifice/promise that signifies a gift to Him because we know he would like it if we worked on that issue. Ei; I made a promise not to yell at my kids.

Wow, it is hard. But I’m pretty sure my kids appreciate it most.
That’s why I’m trying. This blog, even with the few posts, has helped me get clear about my message, my goals and my kids. I will admit to being on the computer more, but I know that I can make this calling work, with God’s help.

I can help YOU find the resources you need to heal AND I can care for my family in a loving way. I just hope that at some point in time, this message will reach you and you will be able to feel God’s love for you and begin on the path to healing.

To any husbands out there, you should know that My husband saved my sanity, and even though it was incredibly tough for him, I think he knows that I am forever grateful for standing by my side when no one else would. He was the reason I wanted to try to get better. I wanted to have our awesome relationship back and care for it, the way My husband cared for me. He has always been the person that I want to talk with, be close to and to share my love and life with. (Even if he is upset with me right now because I have been on the computer most of the weekend.)
I know that there are so many dads who want to help but they don’t know what to do. I will be launching a publicity campaign for a couple of weeks but it might not start till sometime after Christmas. I am praying for you, your family and your success.

Feliz Navidad y que el Nino Jesus te bendiga! (Merry Christmas and may Baby Jesus bless you!)

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My First video ever! ok tried to post it but it’s not working….

My first video

Yes, I realize that it is not nearly as exciting for everyone else, but, I said I would do it, and I did. That’s kind of huge for me. I made a video for you BUT as I am learning my way around a new laptop, new blog and videos, I can’t seem to post it. I am really sorry!

I wanted to have something visual to help you connect with me.

Please forgive the terrible editing, sound and baby distraction! If you manage to find it on Facebook, it might be under Well of Hope PPD Recovery fan page. Please let me know if you find it.

I truly hope you have a great Christmas, full of the love and light of Christ and God’s gift to us.

Love, Elisa

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When I think about PPD

‘I don’t get sad when I think about it. I don’t cry when I think of all the not so nice things I’ve said to my kids and I don’t get sick with fear and worry when my husband isn’t as helpful as I would like him to be.’ Some days I can say those things and be completely free with the truth that I am. Some days, some moments, I can’t. I think about PPD recovery ALL the time. I wonder how best I can help you, who I need to talk to, to get the message of recovery to you, and also what you need to heal safely without side effects. I am trying to reach you because I know you are looking for me. Maybe you don’t know it yet but I know how scary it is to admit that you need help. It is difficult to even comprehend how uncomfortable it is to be so vulnerable as to say; ‘I can’t do this alone’. It is scary to admit that you can’t control your thoughts and that you are struggling to function on a daily personal level. You might be scared to admit that you don’t know what’s going on, why you feel this way or maybe even that you don’t feel anything. That’s why I want to help you find a way to be safe enough to say; “Help Me”.
I will continue to pray that we can find each other and continue the journey of recovery together. I am hoping to make a video this weekend for Christmas, So that you can KNOW that you are not alone.

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Thought for today

I have been listening to many different teleseminars and radio blog shows. Yesterday I listened to Paul Chek, today it was Chip Conley and both were great. I have to say that I have been pleasantly surprised at all these people who walk away from their regular lives and set upon paths that end up helping many others. But I have also been that person who was so desperate that I would try anything and nothing at the same time! I have run around searching for the answers that I thought I asked but I truly hadn’t yet. Paul Chek said; ‘sick people get sick and you can still be a fit sick person’. Paul also spoke of people who had been emotionally or physically abused but instead of working in (dealing and healing from past trauma)-they were working out in the gym, pushing themselves and not feeling or being emotionally well. I can relate to not taking the time to deal with my past as it was too scary or intense or unbelievable in some way, But I will say that when I have dealt with abuse or issues, I have felt freer and able to take in more peace into my soul. My take on Paul Chek’s comments are that he is a wise man who has stumbled upon the keys to better health and is now willing to share those principles with others. So my question to you is; Do you feel well? How can you feel better?
I want to give you a tool everyday, that you can use and feel a difference when you try it. I would like for you to consider 1 thing today; your digestive health. Sometimes we just need to get rid of the bad stuff! Try squatting or sitting on an exercise ball for 15 to 30 minutes, maybe while you read online or watch TV, or do anything that requires you to sit while staying focused on something still.
I am learning everyday that I have so much to learn but I promise that I am willing and I am loving learning about how to help you. Please comment or email if you have any questions. I would also love to chat with you to see if we could work together in this tremendously beautiful service, if you feel that this is your calling and your heart.
In the next week, I will be rolling out ideas that I think will be helpful for families suffering from PPD. I would love some feedback on whether these ideas appeal to you and would truly help as intended.

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I missed yesterday

I missed yesterday because I was still pondering what had happened on Tuesday. I made a commitment to you to help you get through this, and I couldn’t believe the positive feelings that were overwhelming my heart when I got committed to this cause, to God’s calling for me. I would love to help more than 1 person or family but I know that God blessed me with the experience so That I could be His Hands in guiding others onto the path that God wants them to be on. God wants you to know how much He loves you, How excited He is for you to have this experience and learn and grow from it. God trusted you as a mother and a person to bring a child into this world to rear it in love and service. I know these are difficult concepts when you feel so awful, when it’s hard to get up in the morning and feed yourself. I wanted to take care of the baby and love it and play with such an amazing being but I could not stop feeling so bad. I honestly think that there were different factors to each recovery of mine but there were always 2 constants; God and my husband. Even though I felt like God was punishing me, I heard over and over again, that God loved me and trusted me to be a mom (through priesthood blessings). The other constant, my husband, has been amazing; he seemed to radiate love for me when he washed the dishes, took the babies, cooked food for us and gave me massages and spend intimate time with me. Even though I’m sure he felt like he was sometimes drowning, he gave me the best gift I could have asked for; willingness.
He was willing to take me to the Doctor, He was willing to so many other things, that to the outsider, might have seemed like he was spoiling me but I know it helped me to know that he was on my side and wanted me to get better.
It was my husband’s willing efforts to help me feel better that made me try to get better. I only wanted to be around him because I felt safe and accepted, despite my overwhelming physical blemish (I thought) of PPD.
His acceptance later gave me the strength to support him in his addiction recovery.

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